The third law of Relationship is THOU SHALT LOVE THYSELF.
Like the old saying -YOU CANNOT GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE. It's only Out of your Abundance that you dish out to others.
SELF LOVE - The absence of it is the major cause of LOVELESS MARRIAGE that is prevalent in our world today. CHRISTIANITY, notwithstanding,
It takes two LOVE-FILLED individuals to make a LOVELY RELATIONSHIP or MARRIAGE without any party feeling depleted because each one gives into each other and fills one another up thereby giving rise to two complete individuals with mutual love and affection.
If a party is short of LOVE , the other party giving more will be jeopardized and may not live a complete life because more is let out than received. The other party receiving more than he/she is giving is a PARASITE, therefore such union is not balanced and is open to a CRASH.
A ROCK -SOLID -UNION requires two LOVE FILLED INDIVIDUALS who mutually give and receive love and affection from each other all through the journey of their LOVE LIFE.
A LOVE LIFE THAT YOU GIVE MORE THAN YOU TAKE OR YOU TAKE MORE THAN YOU GIVE IS NOT BALANCED , HAS A CRACK, ITS SICKLY AND MAY SOON DIE.
SO HOW DO WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER? IT IS BY LOVING OURSELVES FIRST.
What are the things YOU LIKE, YOU LOVE, YOU WANT, YOU WISH, YOU ASPIRE, YOU DREAM OF, YOU DESIRE , MAKE YOU HAPPY, MAKE YOU FULFILLED, GET YOU SATISFIED, YOU ARE EXCITED ABOUT, YOU CAN BOAST OF , YOU INDULGE IN , YOU ARE PROUD OF?
THOSE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL ON TOP OF THE WORLD- identify them and start doing it for yourself, the more you learn to pamper yourself, more good feeling you have and so you would be able to extend or share . YOU CAN'T GIVE WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE!!!
Ladies are guilty of this, Why do you have to wait a million years for a man to pamper you, while you are not even doing ten percent of what you want a man to do for you for yourself?
Why wait for a man to wear your good clothes you keep underneath the box?
Why didn’t you buy that favorite perfume yourself when you can afford it?
Why can't you go for that trip, training, adventure, tour , special delicacy, spa, salon, etc when is in thy power to do so?
IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF , NO MAN WILL HELP YOU DO. PLEASE BABY PAMPER YOURSELF SILLY.
YOU NEED TO BE A BIGGEST FAN OF YOURSELF, YOUR GREATEST CHEERLEADER AND A BEAUTIFUL LOVER OF THYSELF . By doing this, you are not looking for a man to rub or place on HIGH TARGET or that will make you happy. YOU ARE HAPPY , CONTENTED AND SATISFIED , YOU ARE FULL OF LOVE FOR THYSELF.
AND TO ALL , PLEASE DON’T HOLD DOWN YOUR HAPPINESS TILL YOU GET A SPOUSE OR A LOVER, DOING THAT WOULD MAKE YOU OVERLY DEPENDENT. Imagine if Rapture comes suddenly or the world just ends abruptly, Imagine how many would be unhappy not because of not making Heaven but FOR NOT FULFILLING THEIR LIVES.
STOP LIMITING YOURSELF, LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST , SPREAD YOUR WINGS AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE.
FOR WHAT WILL BE WILL BE and scripture says;
FOR YET A LITTLE WHILE, HE THAT SHALL COME WILL COME .Hebrew 10 VS 37
BLESS YOU.